A Sample from Book Two:
Abundant Sex/Abundant Life: Helping You Manifest Sex
(And all the Good Things that you Dream of)
Joyfully, Effectively, and Safely in your Life!"

Abundant Sex/Abundant Life!

Helping You Manifest Sex (And all the Good Things you Dream of) Joyfully, Effectively, and Safely in your Life!

I am sometimes rather wordy, but often have many useful ideas for others. I think it will be worthwhile for you to read what is below this paragraph. Nothing is more important than your life and your health, and there are here some really useful thoughts below. Happy reading. I hope these words help you in your ongoing decision process about your sexual life and your life in general.

Since I am now 42 years old, I have a memory of being a young person coming of age just when AIDS was in full swing. When I was a young man in my 20's, it was a pretty scary thing, and still is, of course. Back then though, in the 80's, people were pretty paranoid about this disease, and there was quite a bit of stigma. We have come a long way, however, in terms of knowledge, compassion and tolerance. And yet, it is still difficult to wade through all the information about what is "safe" sex and what is not. Some have said that "the only truly safe sex is no sex," and there is some truth in this statement.

So are we all to be celibate monks?

Well, I've been there/done that, and let me tell you, it isn't fun or realistic. I do believe, though, that one can find a sensible approach that takes into consideration the risks of various behaviors, and allows for a sexual mode of being which encompasses just the right amount of risk juxtaposed against just the right amount of (and just the right sort of) sexual behavior for each person. Each one must decide for himself, and of course be responsible to (and honest with) both himself and his sexual partner(s).

The above is what each of us must do, and a tall order it is! But if we get very clear inside, get organized, and stay true to the guidelines we set for ourselves, we can have a very fulfilling sexual life (and life in general) even in the age of AIDS.

So, let's take a stab at addressing some of these issues:

What is just the right amount of risk?

Well, that has to be determined for each person. Different amounts of risk are acceptable for different persons. But keep in mind that when you expose yourself to risk, you also expose yourself, any of your sexual partners, and your life-partner (if you have one) to that risk. Also keep in mind the time it can take for AIDS and various other STD's to show up. You may not even know you are carrying a disease and could be passing it on to a playmate or that special person you love in your life.

What is just the right amount of sex?

Again it varies from person to person. Some people are more highly charged than others. Some like to have sex a couple times a day. Some guys masturbate three or four times a day. Others have sex or masturbate only weekly or monthly. What's right for you is right for you and, in the opinion of this author one mustn't let any person, book, organization or institution dictate what's right for the individual.

Do keep in mind, though, that if (simply put) getting off is putting your safety, health, rest, work or family in danger or compromising them in any way, you might want to rethink a bit how you are incorporating sex into your life. Balance in all things! There is a way for you to meet your needs and have a sane life.

If you think you are sexually addicted, of course read up on this subject, seek help, and work on this issue. However, once again, I would say that no one knows what's right for you but you. And remember, sex is not bad; it's good! We all, unless we are truly that celibate monk type (which I personally believe few of us are), must be realistic. We are sexual beings, and we have needs. Plus, sex is fun, delightful, joyful and one of the great things of life!

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